Sexual Violence Info & Resources

Sexual Violence can include any form of unwanted, unwelcome, forceful or coercive sexual contact. Different terms are used to define these behaviors including: rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment and sexual abuse.  Legal terms and common terms used to define acts of sexual violence are often different, but the commonalities of these crimes, the use of power and control of a person(s) over another, are the same.
 
Sexual violence can happen to anyone regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, class or profession. Although sexual violence is most frequently perpetrated against a woman by a man, it can and does occur between same genders, and also occurs by women abusing men.
 
Approximately one in 5 women and one in 16 men are sexually assaulted while in college. [3]
 
At  Rutgers University - Camden, 25% of women reported sexual assault while in college. [4]
 
More than 90% of sexual assault victims on college campuses do not report the assault. [3].
 
No matter who is involved, it is important to understand that sexual violence is not an act of sexual desire or a miscommunication about sexual desire but one of power, control, and entitlement. Regardless of what form of sexual violence has been experienced, support is available to help a survivor understand their range of options.
 
Many survivors of sexual violence do not disclose what has happened to anyone and this is particularly true of male victims.  There are a number of myths and misconceptions about male victimization that act as barriers for boys and men to disclose and seek services.  National statistics indicate that and 1 in 33 or about 3% of men will be victims of sexual assault in their lifetime and 1 in 6 men were sexually abused before the age of 18 [1,2]. These statistics should be considered conservative, as we know that a majority of all acts of sexual violence are not disclosed or reported.  Additionally, many victims, including male victims do not identify or label the experience they have had as a criminal sexual act.
 
You may have experienced or be experiencing the following symptoms due to the victimization:
• Feelings of anger, sadness, fear, anxiety and depression
• Feelings of self-blame, guilt, shame or embarrassment
• A Feeling of loss of control
• Feelings of loneliness or isolation
• Disorientation or difficulty concentrating on school work or other activities
• Difficulty trusting and feeling vulnerable with other people
• Attempting to avoiding thinking about or denying what happened
• Difficulty sleeping; experiencing nightmares or upsetting and intrusive thoughts
• Confusion about sexual identity
• Fear of engaging in sexual intimacy
• Inability to sleep or relax
• Changes in appetite, nausea or stomach aches
• General pain or physical discomfort
 
If you have been the victim of sexual violence, remember that it is NOT YOUR FAULT. You deserve treatment to address the victimization and the after effects that you may be experiencing. There is no one or “correct” way to respond to victimization.  Although there are some commonalities, each victim/survivor will respond differently to the assault.
 
 
 
For more online resources for male-identifying victims, please visit:
National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization/Male Survivors at http://www.malesurvivor.org
 
We offer individual counseling to victim/survivors of sexual violence that is free and confidential.  Our counseling services seek to provide you with the opportunity to talk about your feelings, fears, questions, and options moving forward. Our goal is to provide you the opportunity to explore all of your options and help you make informed decisions.  It is up to you.  We wish to support you while you make these difficult choices.  If you are interested in counseling, please call our office at (856) 225-2326 to make an appointment.
 
[1] National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention. Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women Survey. 1998.
 
[2] Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. 2006.
[3] National Sexual Violence Resource Center. Statistics about Sexual Violence. 2015.
[4] Campus Climate Survey Action Plan. 2017.