As part of the Rutgers-Camden Campus Community, we believe that everyone has a role to play in stopping interpersonal violence (sexual violence, domestic violence, stalking and harassment).It is part of the raptor creed to take care of each other and it means that you can make a positive difference in the life of another person.
You can take an active role in increase your safety and the safety of other members of our communities by engaging in bystander intervention.
Bystander Intervention is a primary prevention strategy that works to stop attitudes and behaviors that cause violence before they happen. We encourage everyone to have a role in ending violence in our community.We encourage all students, faculty and staff to be positive, active bystanders. This means that you will intervene in situations that don’t feel right to you.
There are 4 main ways to intervene, also called the 4 D’s:
Talk directly to the person who might be in a bad situation. Ask questions like “Who did you come here with?” or “Would you like me to stay with you?”
You can also speak directly to the person who may be inflicting harassment or assault. For example, simply asking “What are you doing?” if someone is trying to lead an obviously-intoxicated person to a private area.
Distract attention away from the perpetrator, victim, or situation by interrupting the situation with a conversational phrase or question that acts as a diversion. This can be as simple as “Let’s go get pizza, I’m hungry,” or “Someone is looking for you upstairs.”
It can be intimidating to approach a situation alone. Ask other people to help you intervene or support you.
● Ask someone to come with you to approach the person at risk. You can say something to distract the person or say something like “Are you in class with us? You look so familiar!”
● Ask someone to intervene in your place. For example, you could ask someone who knows the person at risk to escort them to the bathroom or outside of the situation.
● Enlist the friends of the person you’re concerned about. Try something like: “Your friend looks like they’ve had a lot to drink. Can you check on them?”
Don’t hesitate to call 911, or ask someone else to call 911, if you are concerned for someone else’s safety.
Check in with the survivor and make them feel valued. Educate yourself about oppression. Organize for safer communities. Avoid victim blaming.
It is important to intervene in a way that fits your comfort level, and keeps you safe. Practicing these strategies with friends, R.A.’s, members of your fraternity or sorority, and other students can help you gain confidence to step up when a situation feels wrong. Keep in mind that although stepping in to prevent violence is important, it should never put your own safety at risk.
No matter what strategy you use, we hope that you will choose to do something and do so in safe way that doesn't cause further harm to you or anyone else.
For more information about prevention programs and how to be part of the solution, consider attending our events and workshops throughout the year!
You can contact VPVA at any time to speak with someone about your concerns and experiences. The office is located on the 3rd floor of the Campus Center.
You can also email firstname.lastname@example.org or call at (856) 225-2326.